Today I woke up to the most beautiful greeting; it was my husband whispering “Happy Anniversary!”
As those words filled my ears so did the realization of the fact that I’ve been so blessed to share my life with the same gorgeous, funny and gracious man for the last fourteen years of my life.
I stumbled at the words as I tried to say back to him, Happy Anniversary.
The weight of our history together was crashing down on me, almost bringing me to tears.
Ripples and currents were hitting me like the waves of the ocean. Love filled me up and began to overflow.
Not the romantic notion of love that hollywood movies and romance novels has sold us a bill of goods on but the three levels of love in all of its wonderful essence hit me all at the same time.
AGAPE(Unconditional Love) The God kind of love;
The Thayer Lexicon describes agape superbly when it says “to take pleasure in the thing, prize it above all other things, be unwilling to abandon it or do without it”
But nothing describes Agape better than:1 Corinthians 13:4-8
1 Corinthians 13:4 AMP
Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
1 Corinthians 13:5 AMP
It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].
1 Corinthians 13:6 AMP
It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
1 Corinthians 13:7 AMP
Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].
1 Corinthians 13:8 AMP
Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]. As for prophecy (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), it will be fulfilled and pass away; as for tongues, they will be destroyed and cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away [it will lose its value and be superseded by truth].
EROS( romantic love) I felt a renewed sense of passion burning for my Kevin ;
I felt the presence of God washing over me rekindling the passion for my husband in a new and more intense intimate way.
In that moment I wanted to jump his bones👀.
Yes! I said that because I pray we’re all grown here.😊
and finally PHILEO(the love for my best friend)
Affection towards my husband was restored in a moment. Not saying that I had lost my affection toward him, only that God gave me a greater affection toward him.
The earlier years of our marriage were difficult as we learned to meld our different personality traits together, as we learned to live as one under the same roof at the same time. We were both still young and hot tempered. Neither one of us fully surrendered to our relationship with Holy Spirit or each other.
As the years have passed my how we’ve both grown and with that growth matured into our love.
We have been through so much, if I even attempted to write it all here this blog post would quickly turn into a manuscript.
Our marriage has been tempted, tested and tried but ;Oh for the grace of God.
Loving Kevin A. Johnson is easy because he is a hesed man. Submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ.
Loving me beyond himself every day in every way. In our life with demonstration after demonstration he faithfully puts me before himself. He seeks God on a daily basis for our family. I watch as he works with his hands and brings home the spoils of his labor. I see him being the leader of our home. I’ve seen him grow into the priest, prophet and king of our home. Taking his role seriously protecting the precious promise God has gifted to him.
Kevin you have taught me how to love through showing me what love really is. You stayed when any other male would have walked away. My earthly father never taught me what a man looks like so when you came I didn’t recognize who you were. I was unprepared for you when you arrived. But delicately you handled me with care. Thank you for being patient and kind with me and towards me. Thank you for helping to heal the scars left behind by all the impostors who claimed to be the real thing. Thank you for speaking to the queen in me and calling her forth when all I could see was damaged goods. Thank you for giving me two beautiful children and the ones that shall come forth unharmed and unhindered by any satanic or demonic attack.
I’ve seen the love of my heavenly Father through the love of my husband.
🎉🎉🎉Today we celebrate fourteen years happily and successfully married. 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Marriage does work!!!! Real men do exist!!!!